You may think I have all the answers you need, but I don’t. No child loss is ever the same or similar. Not even those who have died in similar circumstance are the same or similar.

It comes down to so many differing factors, the circumstances, feelings, strength, network, ability, experiences and so much more.

I only know my story, and I will not ever compare my story to anyone else’s because they aren’t the same as me.

The only advice I ever give anyone is to never feel pressured into doing things they may not want, as this is where regrets are planted.

To only do things when it feels right, same reason to have no regrets.

Thirdly and most importantly this is your grief journey, nobody else’s but don’t do it alone, share your feelings if not with family and friends, do it with a support service. Sometimes the journey is too hard alone 💔💙

My children are getting older, they are 15 and 16 now, and it comes with more worries.

The worry of alcohol fuelled parties and nights out, going in cars, it terrifies me! I have to let them be themselves and express themselves and trust that what I have taught them along the way is enough to safeguard them.

My biggest fear right now is loosing another child, it always has been if I’m honest. The moment I had another baby in my arms the fear became so real.

All I can do is support and advise the rest is up to them. Its a fear like no other…

Hi all,

I’ve been quiet recently I know, but this lockdown business continues here in Wales.

It’s not been an easy time, and I’ve been on a bit of a roller-coaster. You see when your a busy busy person like I am, being at home 24 hours a day isn’t good. Don’t get me wrong I’m still working and volunteering, but being in these four walls has proved quite difficult.

I’ve had time to address some more renovation on the house, but also to revisit some of my own issues. That’s right I’m not perfect😂. I know people see me as some of the words I’ve heard, superwoman, Jack of all trades remarkable etc, but although I am strong I’m not perfect. My experiences have left their mark on me, I’m not invincible.

I’m looking forward to go back to work, although I’m working from home, it’s not the same. It’s my guilty pleasure going to work I think. It’s the only place I can be me and not mum.

Anyway, I’m fine, doing OK, and actually acceptance comes into play again, accepting the situation we are in, and accepting that I am doing an OK job at it. Doing the best I can 👌

I still have things that are holding me back in life.

I over react, I find it difficult to rationalise things, but these I know are a direct result of the trauma I have faced in my life. So instead I regularly have to take time out to think and put things in perspective.

One thing that is really bugging me at the moment is that I cry, whenever I am in a 1-1meeting or at the doctors and the focus is on me.

I really wish I didn’t do this….. I feel it gives people the wrong impression of who I am. At the doctors it’s always been, maybe you need anti depressants to take the edge off!!… No I don’t, I don’t even know why I’m crying.

So my focus now is to try and resolve this……. Wish me luck, I’m going on a journey🤞😊❤️💙💔

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I remember feeling like I was on my own, especially after the funeral took place. Everything seemed busy up to that point.

Then as everyone started to go back to their normal routine, my god did i feel alone.

I knew I had people that were there for me, but I felt like I was being a burden to them.

What makes grieving mums feel alone at such a horrendous time, is that we feel nobody unless having experienced the same, will know or understand what we are feeling.

I just want to say there are so many people sadly who have experienced such loss and pain, we are here for you. You are not alone ❤️