Hi sorry I missed you guys yesterday… Was a very busy day…

Im hoping you all have a lovely weekend and some relaxation time…

That’s exactly what I need this weekend… So gonna make time for me have fun!!

My tips to you are:

• Don’t listen to what others think
• Do what feels right
• Cry when you need to
• Go out when you feel ready
• If you want time alone, have it
• Never underestimate your strength
• Notice those that are supporting you
• Take the love and support they are giving you
• Read your cards
• Cuddle an item that makes you feel close to the person you’ve lost
• Take plenty of rest… Tiredness can lower mood

• 💙💔

You think that from now everyone will think negatively of you, you have battled low moods and depression….

Truth is they view you in such a different light….. They see strength, they see a person in touch with theur emotion, they see your stripes… You earned them, they made you who you are…

What you experienced doesn’t affect what others think of you…. Stay strong and hold your head up high… Your a survivor 💙💔

You hear people moan about this and that, they tell you about whats worrying them….

You can become bitter, ‘if that’s all you’ve got to worry about your doing well…..’ How dare you moan when people like me battle every day just to survive.

Truth is they don’t know what you’ve suffered, nor will they ever understand how deep it hurts and how you will never be complete again.

Their troubles are just as real, as to them what they are going through, is or maybe the worst thing they have experienced….. Be sympathetic 💙💔

One of the most difficult questions that was asked of me only days after we lost our son was….

Do you want a grave for 3 opening so you can join him when the time comes?

It was so overwhelming…. Never did I think I would be arranging a funeral nevermind arranging my future place of burial.

I was 21, how on earth was I to decide… We chose a grave for 3…. 💙💔

As mothers say draws to an end… I can say it was a lovely day.

There were voids the one missing name on the card, the extra child you’d like sitting by the table….

But everyone I spent time with today mean the world to me…. Keep your family close, tell them you love them… Hug them tight. 💓💙💔

I managed to spend some quality time with all four today…..

Big fella helped me in the garden, and a hug and love you… Feels great…

Big girl had a day out but cam home pleased to see me… We had a girly chat… also told me ‘you see I do love you’… Feels great

Little fella busy busy and I know he loves me….

Then I popped to the cemetary to see the eldest……….

A simple day shared with the ones I love 💙💔

People can be horrible to you… But I tell you, it takes a certain type of person to be horrible to a grieving mum…..

I was asked once when babysittibg my niece soon after loosing my son… ‘where did you get her from?… Does her mum know?’……

That’s the type of person who doesn’t deserve an answer ……. Just walk away there are negative people who can’t even hang back and try and be nice, even when they know your grieving.

Exclude them from your life…. Never did I speak to that lady again…. She tried to talk to me every time she saw me after that……. But I didn’t even raise my head, she didn’t deserve my breath or time 💙💔

With mothers day around the corner…. I’m thinking of all mums… If you have lost your one and only child… Its a very difficult day.

But I have children and I still find it difficult…. I see a void where his name should be on the card….. I focus on my mum on mother’s day so that it takes the attention away from me.

You are loved you earned your stripes…. Do something special if you can, cause you sure as hell deserve it 💙💔

Someone once told me as they saw one of my most treasured possessions (my boy’s hair lock in a treasured pooh bear pot) on a shelf in the lounge….

Please put that somewhere else… Cause if someone broke in they won’t think of what they are stealing… they will just take everything they see that’s to hand..

Think about where your putting sentimental items….. Cause some things just can’t be replaced 💙💔