After the kids have opened their presents and everyone is busy in taking a momentbto myself before I make dinner to think of those I have loved and lost, and lighting a candle in their memory.

I can’t reiterate enough how important it is for you to do what’s right for you today. It’s a difficult day…but it’s only another day…. tomorrow is untouched.

Be brave embrace what you can….. Take joy from making others happy, here for you all x

Whether you have children to prepare for or not….there is always that nagging thought…..I should be buying presents, should have an extra sack.

Find comfort in giving to others, whether it’s the offer of joining you for lunch or a small gift or even a few kind words.

Seeing others happy makes me smile, gives me faith….and warms my heart💓

So today is a busy day thankfully lots to do, lots of visitors. As the big day approaches there is only one thing I would like for Christmas

…….it’s the one thing I can’t have.

Thinking of all of you over the festive period…..and don’t forget do what’s right for you.❤️💗

People will say the wrong thing….it’s wrong in your eyes…..this is because they don’t know what to say. They don’t know what to say to you….this is because they have over thought things.

They don’t understand what your going through…they don’t know what your feeling….this is why what they are saying may seem wrong to you.

Find peace in the fact that they are trying to say something to make you feel better…..look beyond their words these people do care ❤️

Do what feels right for you…I used to visit my son’s grave every Christmas morning after we had done the presents. After a while I chose not to go on Christmas day as it changed my mindset for the whole day.

Don’t do what people expect you to do, don’t feel pressured. Only you know how best to deal with your loss over the Christmas period.

And if that means you just want a quiet private Christmas or even some time alone… then that’s what you should do. If you change your mind during the day having already made plans…then that’s ok too. Follow your heart, and don’t worry about what other people think as only you knows you properly xxx

Everyone is there for the same purpose this close to Christmas. We are all on a mission to tidy up and clean the graves ready for the big day and to remember our loved ones…

Not much is said, but the eye contact and sympathetic smile we give each other is heartfelt 💙

It’s unfair I see the age on many a headstone as I approach my son’s…the age range varies….why couldn’t our children live longer…. 💙👼

So tomorrow I will be going to the cemetery to clean and tidy your grave and place the many bits and bobs I’ve bought for you for Christmas.

It doesn’t feel like it’s enough…..and I always wonder what it is I would be buying for you this year……

What would you look like….what mannerisms would you have….would you look like me or your dad…..

If you haven’t already done so…. Buy or make a little something to place on your tree, that represents your child.

I find it helps and let people know that’s for your child it helps you talk about them at Christmas.

You won’t believe the time it took me to find a gender neutral angel….cause to me it couldn’t be a girly looking one.

You always feel like you have forgotten something don’t you….

You haven’t you have spent weeks thinking of what you can buy to place on your child’s grave and found the perfect thing.

What we are missing is the extra stocking the extra present, the things you may have bought, the momories we won’t make……

What we don’t see is that item we have bought for our child’s grave took more time, thought, emotion than any other gift…we are making memories.

They live on in our hearts, minds and thoughts……

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton