I hear you, but truth is, there are times when I’m kind to myself but it gives, me too much time to think.We all know there are times when you have to keep busy, and times when you really need a break….Do what feels right only you know what’s best for you 💙💔

You can easily over burden your mind thinking how will life be after you have experienced grief….

Instead think what will today bring, if a full day is too much take it by the hour….

The mallet steps, can make a huge difference…. Even the takes buildings were made step by step… Be kind to yourself 💙💔

It may be the birthday, anniversary, day of the funeral, flowering Sunday, mother’s day, fathers day, christmas… and so much more.

These days bring on their own dilemmas, what can you buy for the grave yard. Whatever you buy will be fitting, heartfelt and perfect.

You will choose certain flowers for a reason. The gifts will be just right.

Why not still give mothers day cards, fathers day cards for you will always still be mum and dad, just special kind of parents, warrior parents. Parents with a daily battle learning to live through grief 💪💞💐💙💔

Everyone we meet have been touched at some point in their life by grief, each and every story very different.

Some of us know our children are unwell, or even have a diagnosis. But nothing on this earth can prepare you for loosing your own child.

It just isn’t meant to be this way… Some are just too precious for this earth or are needed somewhere else.

I just wish I could have kept you forever, well I did in my heart and mind you remain my boy endless love and grief 💙💔

Love the grown up conversations I have with my girl (14)….

The simplest of conversations, but mean so much to me.

All conversations show me how well we have both done, and how far we have come…..living through grief.

Proud, cherished and treasured 💙💔

What if how you look or your face reflected how you were truly feeling on the inside….

Would I be ugly, broken or even empty….

I’ve had a few people say to me over the years that my eyes look sad….. Is this a reflection of my heart… I’m sure it is.

Unfortunately your feelings can’t be seen by everyone, that’s why it’s important to talk. If you can’t talk to your nearest and dearest, go and seek a Councillor or just a stranger in a coffee shop and just chat.

They may just want or need the chat as much as you.

Look after yourself, be kind to yourself and don’t lock your feelings away… 💙💔

Your emotions have been hightened as a result of the grief you have experienced… Or as a result of your life experience.

Is this a negative?

I don’t think so…

Being sensitive, over cautious, defensive, protective, emotional, loving, fearful have all made me who I am today. 💙💔

Wile the weathers nice and everyone is out having fun. Don’t throw caution to the wind, for life can change in an instant.

Have fun but don’t take risks… All too often you hear of tragedies, stay safe and enjoy.

Remind your children of the dangers don’t scare them, but remind them, for in that moment of sillyness or risk taking… They will hear you💙💔

Today I did my last exam for this year in uni, I missed this one due to family commitments.

It wasn’t my best subject but I did my best…. Glad its over and done with.

I came home and we had a lovely roast dinner as a family. Then my girl and I went out for a walk to clear the cobwebs.

Simple precious days are the best💔💙👌

No matter how hard you we try, nothing will ever be perfect again. Every occasion has an empty space.. Every perfect day has a cloud…………… Every Christmas tree has fewer presents under the tree

But it may not be perfect, but it’s as perfect as it can be, and the fact that there are occasions, special days, Christmas and everything else is proof that we are living and living the best we can.

You may feel like those moments go unnoticed but they don’t. These days show your your strength…..

Grieving parents have a strength like no other 💪💔😔💙